don't underestimate the power of a simple phrase

i've been thinking recently that there are a few under-used phrases which have the potential for great impact.

you're welcome.

i forgive you.

i'm proud of you.

i told J. the other night that it makes me sad to say "thank you" to someone and have them respond "ok". it makes me feel like they don't realize my gratitude is genuine. how sad! when i say thanks, i totally mean it. and i would like to hear that i'm welcome, not that it's ok. did you know that in japanese, there's not really even a response that means "you're welcome"?! they always say "ie, ie" [no, no]...

it's easy to say "no problem" or "it's no big deal" when someone apologizes. saying we forgive sounds so serious and formal. and yeah, i suppose it is. but if i receive a genuine apology, i should give a genuine response. and i should genuinely forgive.

i want to tell people that i'm proud of them. if the thought enters my mind, i don't want to hesitate to say it aloud. i always love to hear if someone is proud of me so i should tell others when i'm proud*